Frequently Asked Questions
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Common mistakes to avoid
There are a few mistakes that we have seen people make. These aren't strictly errors, but they are likely to cause you to get less out of the site than you otherwise might.
- Focussing all one's attention on people who are in the top bar on the right. It's very tempting to only chat to people who are currently logged in, because they are the ones who are
most visible, and because they are the ones who could reply right away. This is fine, but remember that everyone else will be talking to them too, so you may be less likely to receive a reply.
Furthermore, there are a huge number of other people who are not logged in at that moment, some of whom will be perfect for you! It is worth taking the time to carefully read the profiles, and
write a long message to someone who is "just right". Or, use the search function.
Also, some people simply forget to log out (but just close the window); they will remain in the top bar for up to 15 minutes before timing-out.
- Not writing a profile, or only a very short one. This means that you are less likely to find what you are looking for, because it cannot find you! It really is worth taking the time
to write a few lines about yourself (or even just list some keywords) - because that way, people whom you will like will contact you. The extra clarity will also help to filter out what you
are not interested in. For ideas on how to avoid blankness, here are some tips on what to write.
- Not giving us feedback. Whether you have a suggestion about how we could improve, trouble to report, or a success story to share, please tell us!
That way, we can continue to improve. This also goes for technical errors: Cupid is regrettably not omniscient, so if you see something failing to work, please shout!
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